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Dear  Brother:

8/18/2015

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Bonus blog by Judi Sanders Silvey

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Dear Brother,

Until I became an adult, your only name known to me was “Brother.”  I couldn’t bring myself to call you “Dale” because of a simple, but deep rooted, matter of respect.  You and Daddy called me “Schnooks”.  Elaine was “sister”.  Mama and Daddy instilled the love of family in all three of us.  We always cherished your accomplishments, and were so very proud of you.  Mom was determined to see her only son at least once a year, and I counted down the days until I could see you too.

As a child, I remember being included in crazy acrobatics that scared me to death.  You would hold me by my legs, make me stiffen out straight, and hold me out in the air.  Crazy stunts, but Mama had made you into my hero, so I let you do anything you wanted!  I was there the day you won the National Freedive Spear-Fishing Championship.  I remember crying in fear that you would never come back up from under the water.  When you won, I don’t remember who was more excited…me, or the famous actor Lloyd Bridges.

There are countless stories of you displaying your “skills” to unknowing subjects.  I recall a wonderful memory of five teenage boys jumping out of a tree into the Red River at Schly Bridge.  You asked “is that safe?”, which only prompted the youngsters to coerce you into climbing the tree for a jump.  You tentatively climbed the boards nailed to the huge old tree, then clung to the branches near the platform at the top.  There was a nonstop supply of support and encouragement from the boys below.  You finally took a deep breath, stood on the platform, then rolled off into a triple flip and a perfect dive into the depths of the river.  Needless to say, those teens were in total awe!  I just stood on the bridge and laughed and laughed. 

Our Hankins and Sanders families were very close knit.  Family reunions were always made perfect because of the efforts that you made to clean up the picnic area on the banks of the Whippoorwill Creek on our family farm.  The legendary “foot rocks” are still in place today because of your efforts to preserve them.  I have often wondered about the stories of those who crossed the Whippoorwill on our foot rocks, just to gather fresh water from the spring.  

Then came Meriam, and three of the most beautiful little babies I’ve ever seen.  I fell in love with them, even before I met them.  That love only grew stronger when you brought them through the door of my home in Bowling Green.  And then began the Christmas “slumber parties” with 20 people sleeping in my house over the holiday.  People and kids were everywhere.  We still tell the story of one Christmas Eve on the way home from Aunt Bill and Uncle Claude McCoy’s house.  I nearly ran over you when you jumped out of your van and started pointing at the sky…then three little Sanders kids jumping up and down with excitement as you explained in great detail that you had, indeed, seen Santa Clause.  I also remember the Christmas that it snowed.  Your kids had never seen snow.  Oh, the screams, the laughs, the excitement!  You were just as big of a kid as they were!

I remember the weekend that we had been cleaning up an area of the creek bank, when we heard you yelling “FOX FIRE!  IT’s FOX FIRE!”.  We were all wondering what crazy joke you were pulling this time, when we skidded to a halt in front of this gloriously glowing log.  You were pointing to the greenish yellow glowing matter that was kind of spattered over the entire area.  Again, we asked, “What did you spray out here Dale?”, for we just knew that you were pulling a joke.  You finally calmed down enough to explain that Fox Fire really is a thing.  And then it became a real thing.  A something that we will all share for years to come.  We had fox fire right there on our farm, on our creek bank.  Not long afterwards, Tommy and I named our part of the farm “Fox Fire Ridge”.  

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Through the happy times of camping, playing, and working on the farm and the creek, I’ve always loved you.  Through disagreements, I never stopped loving you.  We didn’t talk often, but I always knew you were there.  You were just a phone call away if I needed you.  Did you get on my nerves sometimes?  YES.  But I still loved you.
In June of 2014, we gathered at your house in Memphis for a “big announcement”.  Even though I knew what the announcement would be, my emotions overflowed when you said you wanted to paddle the entire length of the Mississippi River, at 80 years old…and you wanted to do it in 80 days…and you wanted to raise funds and awareness for JDRF...in honor of Anna.
On May 15th, 2015, at Lake Itasca, Minnesota, I helped unload your canoe named AnnA.  Elaine and I witnessed you paddling into the source of the Mississippi River with great pride, concern, and joy.  In the following week, we drove hundreds of miles each day (well, it seemed like hundreds anyway) to bring food and supplies to the team.  Watching your canoe disappear into the horizon as you left Lake Bemidji was a breathtaking sight that I will never forget.  With business cards, JDRF bracelets, and awareness information in tow, I knew you had begun the journey of a lifetime. It filled my heart with pride, and so much joy!

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Forty-seven days later, you paddled into sight in Hannibal, Missouri.  All I wanted to do is hug your neck.  The following days were nothing but a blur, running up and down the Mississippi river to find campsites in flooded conditions.  After a July 3rd celebration below the last lock and dam in Alton, Illinois, Big Muddy Mike changed my pride into a sense of excitement that I had only dreamed about.  Paddling in the beautiful Voyageur canoe named Junebug, Big Muddy allowed me to experience a small taste of what draws you to the river.  I felt an immediate sense of adrenaline when I was the first person to step onto that big ole cottonwood tree.  

In Cairo, Illinois, Anna was able to come with me for a very emotional, yet short celebration.  It was the precursor to your team’s entrance in Memphis.  Each person who introduced themselves to me painted a picture of the great man that I have always known.  Your circle of friends in Memphis is more like extended family, and for that, I am so grateful. 

There are no words to describe the feeling I had when you paddled into Burras, Louisiana, with Anna standing at the dock with a cold bottle of water for you.  You two were both winners in that moment in time.  Both of you…heros.

I counted your paddle strokes as you pushed that last mile into the Gulf of Mexico.  I watched through tears, as you struggled against the current and the wind.  I knew you were determined to reach the Gulf.  NOTHING was going to stop you.

While you were breaking records, and Elaine was becoming a world renowned research scientist, all I wanted to do was get married and have babies.  While I have never broken records, and I’ve never been published in a medical journal, our family tree did grow. The most noteworthy of my accomplishments is the birth of two beautiful children, and three beautiful grandchildren…one being named Anna.

My world crashed down the day Anna was diagnosed.  You stepped in to help bring awareness and show the world how important knowledge and research is.  You brought us one step closer to finding a cure for this vicious monster we call Type 1 Diabetes. I love you Brother, and I always will, and "thank you" will never be enough.

Love, 
Your baby sister, 
Judi

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14 Comments
Nancy Scarbrough
8/18/2015 10:09:38 pm

Beautiful story.

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Freeda Winstead
8/18/2015 11:59:11 pm

What a beautiful story, Judi. Brought back memories of swimming in the river at Schly. Watching Dale jump out of that tree and he would stay under the water so long I would begin to wonder if he was ever going to come up.
Every time I go over the bridge by your house I remember the merry-go-round and seesaw he made down by the creek that we could play on. We sure had lots of fun in those days.
What a wonderful adventure he had and so happy that you were able to raise the money for JDRF and hopefully one day beautiful Anna will be recipient of a cure for her diabetes. Chloe wants to come see her again but we have not taken the time to do so. Love all my Hankins cousins.

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Jo
8/19/2015 12:36:57 am

What a loving tribute Judi. I know Dale is just as proud to have a wonderful Sister as you all these years too.

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Margaret Ann
8/19/2015 12:51:33 am

Judi, this is such an awesome story here - and I know you mean every word of it. Dale has done such a great job in going from the Source to the Sea to bring awareness of T1D - he is a hero for so many. I have many memories of him and his acrobatic ability - and for the rest of your family. Love to all.

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Judy Riggs link
8/19/2015 01:27:42 am

Thanks for sharing this beautiful tribute to Dale. I cried as I read just how your parents had raised their children with much love. I know they would be so very proud of all of you. Your Mom taught so many of us to love unconditionally our families. Thankful that God put her and her family in my life. Best wishes to all of you on your next journey, whatever it might be.

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Carol Parker
8/19/2015 02:17:30 am

Judi, I loved reading your tribute to Dale. He is very fortunate to have a "baby sister" as sweet and appreciate as you are. Although I never knew Dale or Elaine when they were growing up, I've known you for 44+ years, and I can say with confidence that you have and continue to make a difference in so many lives. I feel certain you were as much motivation as Anna in Dale's deciding to make this historic journey. Mitch and I will continue to pray that a cure will be found for juvenile diabetes, and we will pray that it occurs soon so that Anna can conquer this horrible disease.

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Carol Parker
8/19/2015 02:17:41 am

Judi, I loved reading your tribute to Dale. He is very fortunate to have a "baby sister" as sweet and appreciate as you are. Although I never knew Dale or Elaine when they were growing up, I've known you for 44+ years, and I can say with confidence that you have and continue to make a difference in so many lives. I feel certain you were as much motivation as Anna in Dale's deciding to make this historic journey. Mitch and I will continue to pray that a cure will be found for juvenile diabetes, and we will pray that it occurs soon so that Anna can conquer this horrible disease.

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Kate Loyco
8/19/2015 02:56:17 am

Judi, Dale, and Elaine:
I've always been proud to be part of our family. Thank you to all three of you for persevering through difficult times and keeping our family united in love and respect. Judi, your blog is touching and beautifully written. I love you all. Kate

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mary sue chatfield
8/19/2015 03:58:54 am

What a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your brother! Congrats to all who played a part in this wonderful accomplishment.

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Shar McLean
8/19/2015 04:07:25 am

Beautiful story of the unconditional love within a family, your family. My family, one by one, came into your life through your love and friendship with my brother, now obviously a grown man, Rod Wellington, bUT still my baby bRotherham to me. From my family to yours I'm wishing you all the best of luck, love and health. May God Bless and watch over us all.

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Dale Sanders link
8/19/2015 02:45:06 pm

After Graduating from High School most of my life was spent in California, the Orient or other distant lands. I missed numerous family gatherings in Kentucky, I missed Whippoorwill Creek at Lickskillet, I missed the closeness one must enjoy with family so near and dear. You were always there for me Judi even though I lived so far. This Brother is blessed to be able to call you my sister. Thank you Judi for expressing your unconditional love. I will always love you and Elaine from the bottom of my heart. I am so proud of my Kentucky family, all of you, down to my distant cousins. Fortunately there in only one family member afflicted with Juvenile Diabetes. Perhaps one of these days a true cure will be found. I am sure, we as a team, did make a difference in some small way.

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Linda Harlan
8/20/2015 03:54:28 am

What a beautiful tribute to an amazing big brother! I have enjoyed following this adventure and am so happy that the trip was completed with no major hurdles and that the monetary goal was exceeded! What an exciting summer!

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Patricia Dixon Young
8/20/2015 10:22:17 am

Judi what a beautiful tribute. This brought tears to my eyes. I loved being reminded of all the fun times we had growing up. I too remember how Dale included you in some of his acrobats, the times I remember him jumping out of the tree at Schley, of our swinging and jumping off grapevines down at the river bank, and the merry go round and things he made on the riverbank. If we could only live our childhood over again there is not much that I would change between you and Elaine, Debbie, David and Terry, Linda Brenda Sandra Johnny Garnet and the rest of the holloway clan, Gary and Betty and Ronnie. We had great times. Our other cousins lived in Nashville, Calif and Ohio so we didn't get to see them as much but loved those Hankins get together whether at your home our home. Aunt Annibelles. Aunt Bills or aunt Ruth Ellen. What a wonderful family we had. Thanks again for all you have done and you know after all you did over the past weekend I was so touched that you offered to help us move Brandon into his dorm and I know anytime that I come "home" I am always welcomed to stay at your home. You are one in a million.

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Patty McLaughlin
8/21/2015 05:04:23 am

Will you adopt me? After reading your beautiful tribute to Dale, whom I am proud to call my friend, I think I'd like to be a member of your wonderful family! You have touching memories of good stuff!
We in the Bluff City Canoe Club are proud of Dale also. And he has brought awareness of T1D and raised a significant amount of $$$ towards a cure. Bless little Anna.

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